This is the Keto Bandito blog and staying focused on you goals naturally revolves around weight loss, nutrition and the low carb, Ketogenic lifestyle…on this blog any way, but this strategy can be applied in all facets of life….
What do you really want?
Don’t just blurt something out…what do you really want? I mean REALLY WANT!
Not what would you like… save that for the waiter at your restaurant, he’ll take your order and oblige. Not what you desire…save that for when you come across a dusty lamp tell the Genie what you desire and maybe he or she can grant that. When I ask what do you really want, I mean what will you commit to and more importantly what will you sacrifice to get it? Nothing worth having in this life comes without a cost….nothing worth having comes without pain, sacrifice and a commitment to getting to your goal.
When you see that lead guitarist rocking out to a filled stadium of adoring fans, thinking to yourself, how fortunate he is…he’s sitting on top of the world, what you don’t see are the countless hours of practice, the bloody fingers from honing his craft, the filthy venues that he played to get to that stage you’re looking at
When you see that fella on the beach with the rock hard abs and the bulging biceps…see how natural and comfortable he is walking around without a shirt on, What you don’t see is the pain and dedication to the gym or the disciplined approach he took towards his nutrition…the ice cream sundaes that he refused because of his commitment.
Intellectually we know that the guitarist & the fella with the 6 pack abs worked their butt off to get where they are….if you’ve ever picked up a musical instrument for the first time and tried to play a note you soon realize that this requires skill…and while someone can have a natural aptitude for music or have a genetic propensity for a lean body…getting to that upper tier requires work….so what do you really want?
Set the Goal
Well into my 50s and nearing 300 lbs, I wasn’t happy. Not with myself, not with the man staring back at me in the mirror. This is not the best version of me… I can be better… I will be better…and I had an Albert Finney in the movie “Network” moment…”I’m as mad as hell and I’m not going to take this anymore,” dammit, and I meant it. The time had come for a change and nothing was going to stop me… I didn’t know how I was going to make the change or what the change would look like…but dammit I was going to lose the weight, be healthier and not hate looking at that man in the friggin’ mirror!
For my height & age,,,to get to a BMI (Body Mass Index) of 24.9 and classified as normal I need to get to 165lbs…that’s the goal, today
Choose a strategy
Weight loss, especially a goal of losing almost 50% of your current weight requires a strategy…hell accomplishing anything worthwhile requires a strategy. In this case the strategy chosen was the Keto diet…that ‘s a personal decision. Any strategy chosen MUST be a personal decision…just like someone addicted to drugs or alcohol needs to make the decision to make a change and choose a strategy to overcome their addiction…the strategy choice needs to be your own.
Make the Commitment
This is where you need to dig deep and be honest and truthful with yourself and make a hard, detailed, specific commitment to yourself. Get granular, don’t leave anything to speculation or interpretation. Our minds can justify just about anything given the proper motivation.
For example, my commitment initially was too vague… I was going to lose weight, finally…like that was a revelation…like I’ve never said that to myself before. The goal and the commitment had to get more specific, more detailed. I decided that the Keto diet would fit my lifestyle and I could sustain it….but remember…it’s easy to say nearly 2 years and 80+ lbs later that I just had to “stick to it” for the next few years and all would be well… that was too big and too vague and I wasn’t sure that any of this would actually work…it’s not like I hadn’t started a diet before. Plus, the Keto diet is not without controversy…just ask Jillian Michaels
So I got granular….strict Keto for 30 days… I would measure everything that I could, weight, neck, shoulders, chest, waist, thighs…this was going to be a scientific experiment and at the end of the 30 days I would know if this could work for me or not.
Then I got ANALOG on this commitment and I WROTE IT DOWN…. I know sounds hokey…but I wrote it down like a contract and I put it in my office over my computer monitor…where I would see it every day.
Find someone that will hold you accountable….this is harder than it sounds. Ideally I could just tell my wife, and I did, but she’s not the best person to hold me accountable, she loves me too much and enables me. This required telling someone that would hold me accountable…someone that would say “hey I thought you where on a diet…drop the doughnut!”. Someone that is not adverse to asking you the uncomfortable questions…but also someone that you trust…a friend or a colleague…or maybe your wife, she might like telling you to drop the doughnut
Look into the mirror…
Take a long hard look at yourself…this commitment is ultimately being made to that person in the mirror. Do you consider yourself to be disingenuous, a phony, a fake…most people don’t. Most of us see ourselves as the protagonist in their story”… The good guy (or gal). Make the promise to yourself…you’re worth it…you deserve to see it thru. Be the type of person that says what they are going to do and does what they said they would do….
Being genuine…that is so empowering. The momentum from that alone is priceless. Being a person of action…someone that talks the talk and walks the walk….this is such a great gift to give yourself…be genuine!
Have courage…this commitment is for you and no one else, have the faith and the courage that not all people will agree with your decision…in fact it’s almost a guarantee that once you make a commitment to yourself whether it’s diet, exercise or anything for that matter…someone will have an opinion that contradicts your decision….Keto diet…oh no…that’s bad for you… Jillian Michaels says so. Running a 5k?…oh no, that’s bad for your knees….it’s your commitment… you’ve made your choice wisely…ignore the naysayers…have courage.
Be resilient…remember that strategies are not goals…strategies can change, goals do not. My goal was not to eat Keto….my goal was to lose weight, lose fat, get healthier life…Keto was just the way I was going to get it done. Over time the strategy evolved, I mixed in bouts intermittent fasting. Added in a commitment to be more active….bought a Fitbit and made a goal of moving 10,000 steps per day….all strategies towards the goal….keep an eye on the goal, the road to the goal won’t be a straight line…be resilient
Last thing…be fair with yourself, this is the long game, life is going to happen…you’re going to make mistakes…we just do. Own it, acknowledge it, forgive yourself and get back on that horse!
Let me know how you stay focused down in the comments below…together we can achieve more!